"Be yourself. Be you." Why is it pointless to compare ourselves with others?

If I could guess, I would say that humans have been comparing themselves to one another since the beginning of time.

The comparison game is as old as humanity.The big question about how people behave is whether they've got an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an inner scorecard. Would you rather be the world's greatest lover but have everyone think you're the world's worst lover? Or would you rather be the world's worst lover but have everyone think you're the world's greatest lover?

In some cases, comparisons can be helpful. They can inspire and motivate us to change. Other times, comparing ourselves to others, allow others to drive our behavior. Sometimes the comparison is motivating, and sometimes it's destructive. I remember my relationship with a close family member of mine, Sophia. We are the same age and we grew up together. Our parents used to compare us in everything we did. Until this day, I and she never grew close, never come to be friends. There was always a wall between us.

You can be anything, but you can't be everything.

Usually, when people compare themselves to others, they compare their best features against their average ones. We compare ourselves regarding genetic traits, lifestyle, or professional success. It's just like being right-handed but still trying to write with the left hand. Unconsciously we realize that we are often self-destructive. At worst, when we compare ourselves to others, we end up focusing our energy on bringing them down instead of raising ourselves.

I want you to remember that there is one thing that you're better at than other people: being you!
This is the only game you can win and succeed. Keep interest in your path. Be humble. Many people strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Be You.

When we embrace ourselves, everything starts to look better. No longer you are focused on others. Your focus and energy are on you, and how can you improve yourself. Life becomes about being a better version of yourself. You become happier, free from the shackles of false comparisons, and focused on the present moment.

When what you do doesn't meet the expectations of others, too bad. What really matters is what you think about what you do, what your standards are, what you can learn today. Playing someone else's scoreboard is easy; that's why a lot of people do it. But winning the wrong game is pointless and empty. You get one life. Play your own game. your story is unique and so so different and not worthy of comparison. Never forget that it is not wise to compare your journey with someone else's journey. Your journey is a journey, not a competition.

"With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,

it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy."

- Desiderata, Max Ehrmann

Written by Anna Miraka